Advice For Perpetrators

If you are, or think you may be, abusing your partner, ex-partner or a family member, there is help available.  LWA is not currently able to offer a domestic abuse helpline to perpetrators of abuse, however other organisations can.

Respect is a national organisation offering information, advice and support to perpetrators of abuse. They also operate a national helpline on 0808 802 4040.  Further information is available on their website.

If you are behaving abusively, Respect recommends that you:

  • Speak to someone – their domestic abuse helpline is available Monday to Friday 10am – 1pm and 2pm – 5pm.  If the line is busy, leave a message and they will call you back within two working days or you can email them on - info@respectphoneline.org.uk 
  • Read their information to manage the risk in the short term:

Spot the Warning Signs, Take a Time Out!        Managing Jealousy    

  • In the long term, if possible join a behaviour changing programme, often called a Domestic Abuse Perpetrator Programme. Unfortunately these are not available in all areas. The Respect Helpline will be able to tell you if there is one in your area.
  • Get further information by downloading Respect’s Choose to Stop booklet.
  • or by reading:
    • 'From Fear to Freedom: Masculinity, Control and Change: A Workbook for Men' by Dave Morran (Editor), Venture Press, 2009, ISBN 1861780826
    • 'Violent No More' by Michael Paymar, Hunter House Publishers, 2000, ISBN 0897932684
    • 'Man to Man: A Guide for Men in Abusive Relationships' by Edward W. Gondolf and David M. Russell, Sulzburger & Graham Pub Co, ISBN 0945819617


(Information reproduced with kind permission of Respect).